Their partner saw past the mask, realized they were flawed and left. The presumably psycho female property manager of condominium got the Condo RO for me for INTIMIDATING threatening, interrogating HUGE MEN, such as plumbers, security etc, groups of them!! The woman whom he triangulated me against is not happy, because they use to meet and walk their dogs. Anon, my comments were taken way out of context. The woman whom he triangulated me against reached out and were now friends-acquaintances again. It was that she was not responding to my texts and pulled yet another disappearing act on mewhich was unacceptable this time especially given the current set of circumstances. Anyway, you read the story. I no longer care if hes thinking of me or not as I am moving on and doing so quickly. They are all programmed the same way. Number app on my phone when he left and i deleted his number, pics etc off my phone. If you had started dating him again it would not have been long before he would have discarded you again. I sure did And until I met him I didnt know what a narcissist was so I had no reference. He kept trying to convince me that i was the crazy one and he is not a liar and not crazy. Walk away and find someone who respects and appreciates you. He still wants to see our son and have joint custody but he is so sure that things between us are over because he says I am crazy and abusive. I left her and my main concern now would be what if she comes back to mefrom stories I read they always come back I dont know how I would proceeded depending on what she will say even though I learned about all the shady tactics and such.. Reclaim your inner power, disarm the narcissist, 7 Sneaky Things Narcissists Say to Get You Back - Kim Saeed: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Personal Growth, Vanilla Sky Unreality with the Narcissist - Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, 7 Sneaky Things Narcissists Say to Get You Back - Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, Does the Narcissist Miss You After No Contact? I have no friends lef..who would help any ways. I desire to be in relationship with a woman that will love( Im not expecting perfection here), edify, forgive, encourage and see the good in me, and I desire to be with a woman who can and will receive that as well. He says hes happy with the new girl and wants to remain that way. We are in the same situation!! Where he used to be able to (really well) fake his love etc. My ex wanted some time to think about what he wanted so I ended it for him. Im not sure he actually paid attention to what I looked like, but one thing is for sure, I didnt look like that all the time when we were together. He moved right into her place. [] Narcissists must have a source of supply for their survival. Unbelievalble. His mom asked how much I was selling it for, etc; I told her to call him for the details cause he charged it and had the paperwork. They are just as inconsistent and drama filled as friends as they were as significant others and if that will bother you its not a good idea. and maybe he does in HIS way but why wont he let go. So now i did not hear from him clearly. He will throw everything at you to get his "supply" back. I grew up with narcassism in my family. She had more than enough chances to make up for these acts, yet chose to move on to the next guy and start over from scratch. In this scenario, it will manifest by doing everything in their power to get their partner to return, so they can get their revenge and end the relationship. Theres a reason here that may not be obvious, but its not due to a sudden change of heart. I have an IQ of 150, have never done drugs in my life (not even pot) and do not have any mental disorders. They only sometimes and realy view times they have a connection with his heart. There is hope for the victims. Ellen, Anon is absolutely correct. I dont really get the difference between someone whos simply infatuated, someone whos co-dependent, and someones a true narcissist based on that letter of a narcissist. Narcissists are Narcissists because they have dark personality traits that rarely change for the better. After all, if he is used to being a father, he is probably already adept at dealing with a female borderline/narcissist to some degree. In all you wrote what stood out for me is your son. Nothing. He literally left my bed one night and was in hers the next. Think about that for a moment. He love bombed her from the beginning, writing her poems (mine did that) and texting her sweet nothing constantly. Stay strong. I did..and regretted it of course. Whether its good or bad its still with you, and that makes it worth it. Narcissists have lots of deceptions up their sleeves. (Not to mention the danger to ur health as u do not know if he practices safe sex with his partner). Lose the Loser! Even though he struck back with a vengeance, I think I outsmarted him and that makes me feel great. I raged more than him since he drove me crazy at times. Heres whythe reality is that narcissists suffer from mental health issues. As I posted above, she did not lash out or ever do harm to herself fro m what I could tell. Now that you know what he is and you exposed him, he will do everything possible to make you look like you are the crazy one because he fears you because you know the truth about him. 5. He talked incessantly about everything..why people behave the way they do and how childhood impacts negative behaviors, blah blah. Its like punching you in the arm, and then blaming you because you have a bruise. Furthermore, if you are not referring to the image on this particular post, then you should send a document that is not macro-enabled, since these often contain viruses. He now has someone else. Like he was punishing me KNOWING I didnt feel loved without physical expression on a regular basis. In fact, your ex would probably be annoyed and even angry at you. Sorry if my sentences are all over the place but I tried to hurry. We all die alone. it hurt but I am not responding. Thank you you are inspiring and reassuring, Great article, Kristen. More posts from r/NarcissisticAbuse I found out of her web of lies when discussing the issues with mutual friends that had loyalty to me. And I really think he may be a narc. All because I told him he was a liar and I didnt trust him. All done to hide who they really are & what they are actually doing to you, PURE EVIL, This is however not about us Id been waiting since then to get another call from him to threaten me in some way over the damn freezer but nothing since then up until this past weekend. It took me 48 years to finally go to NC. You can put a stop to that by ceasing engagement. Women can be Narcissists too and it is just as traumatic to a man as it is to a woman. I wont ever be again. Well, the first thing youll want to do is make sure you file for custody. I guess Im just struggling with all the emotions related to the situation more than anything. Lies, lies, lies.. And sex halted to once a month. When he comes back and the dream is still ist completly dead.. This all came to a head when I found out she didnt have 2 children she had 4! So, by doing a good deed and letting her borrow that money, I get in return NO money back AND cut completely from her life. Im here to tell you the one wayhow to know if a narcissist is finished with you. I can tolerate a lot of negativity before I set my foot in because I am a calm positive person that always try to look at the good into others and try to understand motiveI usually question whats wrong and how can it be fixed especially when it comes to someone that I feel I genuinely and unconditionally love..but now I am asking myself how the hell I stayed with her for so long ignoring red flags that I noticed myself and that my friends noticed too. We have gone through a lot so we are stronger then ever and then most couples. He did not tekst me. My narcissist didnt everhoover. I keep in touch how it goes when i hear from him. He liked every thing I liked. The DSM just want to be politically correct. It also made me less valuable to her, I guess. I broke up with him and got back together with him a year and a half later, only to see the old pattern re-surface. Also, the fact that she is (from what I know) still with this guy really has impacted my psychology in a negative way. I am going through a divorce right now because my husband met another girl at his job. What is worse, however, when dealing with narcissists, is feeling the effect of their lack of empathy and cruelty. Telling him hes a Narc would only gets his back up and make him attack like a snake. His point is, that the traditional psychoanalytical approaches are very much applicable to all the neurotics (people with emotions, insane or healthy), BUT NOT THE DISTURBED CHARATERS, BECAUSE DEEP DOWN IMPLYES THEIR ACTING ON SUBCONCIOUS, AND THESE CHARACTERS KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING, THUS ACT CONCIOUSLY. Thats why it is so easy to come back because i have no one here in my neighborhoud. Wrote to me that he missed me and then I told him never contact me and he sent me a nasty email trying to bring me down. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. A mutual friend of mine and hers had unknowingly stated she was having a fling with a married man with 2 girls who was leaving his wife. As convincing as it may seem, this is simply the narcissist trying to hoover you back into a toxic relationship with them. Not many, just a few. Never picked the Phone up and answer my messages. Was discarded and left with our son. Ultimately, he divorced me saying that he could not be with anyone who saw him as his abuser. A wife was left feeling 'angry and confused' after her husband asked if he can have an affair with another woman. My way of thinking is my life is my life. If there is any way you can leave with your child and not see either of these men, you and your child would both be better off. FreeAtLast, this is a common tactic of Narcissistsacting like I have been so horrible to him he cant stand to be in a room with me. Now you've learnt about narcissism, you know all you need to know and what to expect, yet your missing that one piece, the hoover, they just haven't bothered to hoover you, you know all the ways they do this, yet the narcissist you once knew hasn't bothered with any hoover. Breaking free from her was a relief and the day she died, I felt nothing at all I wasnt relieved, I wasnt sad. I definitely have some work on myself I need to do though. They want it all, at all costs, so they slowly & painfully strip it all from us, they take everything we have, even our energy He figured if he stayed away long enough I would forget his horrible words. Theyre the ones who do the dumping. Anyone who has dealt with a narc is changed and scarred forever, Period. My heart does go out to all of us affected by these crazy makers. But know in my mind rationaly that is not good, I dont have to need his approval that i am ok. MY choice to be a Christian and follow a moral path is what polices me to do rightEVEN when I know someone would let me get away with doing wrong. We got back together and she told me it was over with the other guy because he had a temper and used drugs. Through talking with friends and learning about the situation i am in, i believe i will and can brave the storm. I could never please her. When they try to come back onto the scene after a long stretch of silence, they have been scheming. It took me one year to realize, who I was dealing with. If you will just act like his friend for the sake of his image, then all will be well in his fake world. He gives me a glimpse of the man I fell in love with. Other women I have dated that possesed BPD traits were easier to see their faults. Im just wondering how to handle a narcissistic man who has to be in my life due to my child. 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